Answering Marriage Questions

Answering Marriage Questions

[My Offline Bible] Matthew 19
3 The Pharisees also came unto him, tempting him, and saying unto him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause?

4 And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female,

5 And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?

6 Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.

7 They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away?

8 He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.

One question that makes people see God as not responsible for who we get married to is the question about God having only one spouse in mind for each of us.

They ask what happens if that person dies? What happens if they never met? So many questions are raised to debunk what they call the idea that God made only one spouse for each person.

Marriage has always attracted all sorts of questions. In Matthew 19 we saw how Jesus Christ was confronted with questions pertaining marriage, divorce and remarriage. In His comprehensive answer, He gave insight into the mind of God concerning marriage.

There are two main keys that unlock so many hard issues in His answer.
One is the fact that Moses had to give certain laws in order to handle the hardness of the heart of the people and that marital issues had not been as Moses permitted from the beginning. In that one statement, Jesus Christ reestablish the order of marriage as it was in the beginning.

The wedding in Eden becomes the prototype and the model till date as ordained by Christ and that's what Christians should follow.

Of course, the practicality will be different but the principle must remain the same.

The second key is that what the Lord has joined together let no man put asunder. In the surface, it sounds as if God opposes all kinds of separations, while God opposes separation of some sort, it goes also to show us that God doesn't regard all kinds of joining as marriage.

Except if we want to see every kind of people living together as joined together by God. But judging by what it was in the beginning we can know how God joins.

Man's joining either by self or by others can't be equated to God's joining. Just because we have our own cravings satisfied, satisfy societal and religious marital laws and all other human obligations do not equate to God's joining.

Going back to the beginning, as the model according to Christ, the husband and the wife were in the same body before God separated them. He didn't separate them so that they might become disunited, they were separated for companionship and rejoined together through marriage.

So marriage is a rejoining of two who were once one in the womb of God and scattered in to the world to be joined again.

With that, the only person who can identify the parts and do the operation of rejoining would be the one who separated them and who has the ID of each of the parts and the power to bring them together as one.

When that joining happens, it'll naturally become rebellion against God to want to disintegrate that. That's what Jesus spoke about.

Someone may ask, what if one of the spouses dies? If God permits remarriage then He knows how to recreate another to fit into the space created. That shouldn't be our bother really if we believe in the power of God.

Our concern should be how as Christians who believe and submit to the teachings of Christ as the truth would walk with God and be led of His Spirit into all that He had before prepared that we should walk in.

[My Offline Bible] Ephesians 2
10 For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus unto good works, which God hath before ordained that we should walk in them.

Our creation and the pathway of our divine destinies are like the train and the railroad. The railroad was already made and prepared before the train comes, but must be made with definite specifications and precision to accommodate the train and same goes for the making of the train itself. Marriage is part of that system. There are things already prepared, for which we have been prepared for. But the only one who is sufficient for these things is the Creator.

So it isn't and shouldn't become strange to Christians that God would have a person for him or her to marry who fits in perfectly into one having being created together before their separation. And knowing that Christianity runs on the leading of the Holy Spirit and not just on developed mental and intelligent quotient.

As many as are led by the Spirit of God they are the sons of God. He that does not have the Spirit of God is non of His. As the wind blows where it lists, so is every one born of the Spirit.  This is the way we run as children of God and that's how the train of our destinies locates the railroad and runs. Romans 8:9&14, John 3:8.

So as we submit and yield to the leading of the Spirit daily through faith and obedience to the Word of God which is Christ Jesus, the people, the places, the events and time (both in days, dates and duration) that are writing our biographies fall in line with what's already written in the book God already wrote concerning us from eternity. Psalm 139:16;40:7, Hebrew 10:7

God wouldn't demand of us what He hasn't prepared us for therefore our destinies including our divine joining in marriage isn't beyond our attainment with God's grace and power on our sides.

Yes, we make mistakes and God covers us. I'm of the opinion that not every working marriage got it rightly from start. I'm sure God permitted many to work depending on the individuals involved. Nothing is impossible with God. But that's also the reason why we can't quickly judge those who had gone through divorce if they had tried their best to keep their marriages. Who knows if they were never joined and God wouldn't accept their continuous living in such contraptions? Some separations are nothing more than repentance towards God. If an homosexuality repents and separates from his homosexual partner, are we going to call that putting away that God hates when God didn't join them ab initio even if a church had conducted their wedding?

Power has been released from day one, to power our destinies to fulfilment and as we release our faith in God's processes, the power is released in us to work doing exceedingly abundantly far above all we can ask or think to bring God's plan to pass in its time in our lives.

So long we want to do God's will and follow God's plan for our lives  and are submissive to the Lordship of Christ through obedience to His Words, the Spirit of God is always available to help us into the centre of God's will for our lives.

Good morning