The Power of Loving Oneness

Relationship Friday: The Power of Loving Oneness

Marriage makes two one. But the two must have faith in each other and be in love towards one another before they can operate in oneness.

For this cause, says the Lord, shall a man leave his father and mother and be cleaved to his wife and both of them shall become one flesh.

Apostle Paul said no one hates his own flesh but cherishes and nourishes it.

Two are only better than one when the two are one. One will chase a thousand, two will chase ten thousand but that's only if they are chasing together as one and not chasing each other.

Marriage makes two one in principle but it takes certain things to make oneness a reality.

You have to first know that oneness is a necessity. There are things created in pairs that won't work maximally and normally singly. The legs, the eyes, the hands, the ears, the nostrils etc all came as twins and they have to work as one and in sync to achieve purpose. So also is marriage. But marriage won't be what it was meant to be without oneness between the man and woman involved.

We often think the ceremonies make the marriage, cohabiting, the sex or the children. These aren't what make marriage. Without oneness, marriage doesn't exist. This shows the necessity and the importance of marriage.

Two, for oneness, there has to be love. Both of you must be in sacrificial and unconditional love towards each other. Not the kind of fair weather love that seeks its own things, looking for how to take advantage of the other person for personal gains. Such conditions don't augur well for oneness.

Thirdly, oneness can't happen without trust. Love produces trust. Love shows in the intents of the heart. But love doesn't always produce faith, until it is expressed. Love comes by hearing but hearing isn't just of words and the things we say but reading and hearing the things actions and attitudes are saying.

Sometimes, trust is a matter of personal insecurities and not of the integrity of the untrusted. To someone with personal insecurity issues, there's nothing you'll do that would make such trust you. Every good deed is a suspect because of the impurities of the heart of the insecure. Insecure people are hard to form oneness with. And the insecure must do away with his or her personal insecurity to be able to trust his or her spouse enough to form oneness that will move their lives forward!

Oneness is homogenization with specialisations and departmentalization. It requires supplying all to form the mix from where offsprings are drawn that define increase and success. Both need to be naked and not be ashamed otherwise there will be separations that kills oneness. If you have things to hide or to keep back, you know you're not one and can't be one with another in that state no matter how much love is shown. The trust placed in you is misplaced and can't form oneness.

The degree of love, trust and openness that operate in between couples drive the degree of oneness they form to benefit their union and their future.

In oneness, life is one for the two. The present and the future for the two is one. Oneness isn't theoretical, it must be active and it shows in practical living.

Oneness is seen in sex. Sex makes the two one. The primary benefit of sexual oneness is the pleasure derived, then the commitment or covenant it establishes and the procreation it brings.

All the three basic benefits of sexual oneness is available for oneness in every area. Financial oneness will produce same benefits so long, the love, the trust and the openness are present.

The brains of a couple can bring innovations that will change situations and the world if they will work together as one being married. Marital oneness isn't just about having sex and making babies... It can also make money, it was meant to make your lives...

Your jobs can be family business if oneness comes in. Jesus Christ said, a house divided against itself can't stand. Is your house divided? You'll say No, but is your house running on oneness? Your answer must be Yes!

Start working on it from this moment, build oneness and drive it to make it work for you and your home.

Remain blessed and have a great weekend!