Bringing Leadership Home: The Suitable Help

Bringing Leadership Home: The Suitable Help

Looking closely to the story of Adam and Eve, we saw how God among all He created looked at Adam and said it is not good for the man to be alone, I will make a help suitable for him. In the old King James version, it read 'help meet'.
God was looking for a company for him, a working company that fits into his work scheme and schedule.

We saw also how Adam couldn't find a suitable help to accompany him among all other creatures until God took the woman out of him. Someone asked if Adam was hermaphrodite but no one can say categorically but if he was made male and female according to Genesis 1:26-27, or was made to reproduce, and was made one person then he would carry both gonads in one body. When God was to remove the woman from him, He didn't say it was for reproduction, it was for a helping company.

And definitely Adam was not the same after the 'rib' was removed but when he saw the woman he recognised that she was part of him...the bone of his bone and the flesh of his flesh...he called her woman, one taken out of him... Genesis 2

That means the help God wanted for him couldn't be found outside of him...so the man was split to two to create help for him. That means he is helping himself, he became his own help meet. The woman isn't just the help for the man, the man too is help for the woman on the same vision God has given them before the split. They were in that one body that needed help, they in one body needed the help and they had to split to provide that help.

So both are equally equipped to bring help. They haven't shared visions, the assignment remain the same...be fruitful, multiply, fill up the earth, subdue it and have dominion. Both had the capacity to fill the earth. They were blessed together with the ability to produce, reproduce and perform. Isn't it clear today seeing that intelligence and skill aren't particularly gender sensitive?

We see also that individuals aren't endowed same way. Women aren't endowed in some peculiar ways different from men, capacities and skills don't have any particular demographic pattern...

So in the home, effectiveness demands that as we do in our businesses we give roles according to what each is equipped to offer in helping the cause. The inbuilt capacity, potential and opportunities of each is pointer to the help such was sent to provide.

We can't be effective and we'll be calling for serious dysfunction if we don't put the right peg in the right hole.

We already have gender stereotypes that don't recognise potentials like we do in human resource management in our offices. In Christian ministry, people are allocated offices by the gifts and the empowerment of the Spirit of God within them. In our businesses, roles are allocated by series of tests to determine competencies and when we get it right we build great organisations.

But on getting home our stereotypes kick in. We begin to demand what men 'do' and what women 'do' even if these particular people in the Marriage do not have the power or the opportunity to do so.

We neglect what they have been wired to contribute, while we expect them to do what society demands of them which they may not have the capacity to do.

There are men with better cooking skills and women with better business skills but stereotypes will demand the man to handle the business while the woman stays in the kitchen and we wonder why people just couldn't meet up with what is expected of them even when putting in all their efforts. They often conclude that marriage wasn't meant for them...

These abnormalities are things we won't do in our businesses and careers which we prioritize and put into utmost consideration at the home front...

Couples need to discover each other's strong points and make each contribute his and her strengths and not weaknesses into the home enterprise. With that we can expect self fulfilment and joy of giving in love without stress...without being forced to do what's not inbuilt. The result will be functionality and effectiveness in every area.

This is the essence of Bringing Leadership Home...

It's time our homes become more fruitful and multiplying to fill our world with what our hearts carry in order to conquer and subdue our world to enjoy true dominion...

Let's do it!

Good morning!